Why Men Are Not Okay (And Why That's Not Your Problem to Fix)
You're not imagining it: dating feels harder than ever — especially when you're dating over 30 or dating over 40.
You're not getting pickier. You're not "unlucky." And you're definitely not broken.
You're a grown woman who’s done the work, paid the therapy bills, unlearned the childhood patterns, and raised your standards. And now you're sitting across from men who want credit for bare minimums, think being "not like the others" is a personality, and expect you to nurture them like you’re their new mom.
So let’s say it plain:
Men are not okay.
And it’s costing women everything.
The Data Isn’t Just Disappointing. It’s Dangerous.
Recent podcast episodes from It’s Been a Minute and What Now? broke down what many of us already feel in our bones:
Over 50% of single women are no longer interested in marriage
1 in 7 men has no close friendships
1 in 4 men can’t name a best friend 😳
Women are outpacing men in wealth, education, and homeownership
But still, the world keeps telling you to fix the imbalance. To "find the good ones." To "not be too picky." To "go back out there" even when the dating pool is murky with unhealed egos, performative feminism, and emotional stagnation.
Let me ask you something:
Would a company tell a high-performing executive to settle for a job that doesn’t pay her, develop her, or respect her time?
Exactly.
So why are we still telling women that the key to happiness is finding a man?
Stop Using Men As the Milestone.
If you’re navigating dating over 30 or even dating over 40, it’s easy to feel like you’re behind.
But what if being single isn’t a detour?
What if it’s the most aligned, empowered, and honest path you’ve ever chosen?
That uneasy feeling in your chest when you're about to lower your standards just to say you tried? That’s your body saying, "We don't have time for this."
You're not in a drought.
You're in a detox.
You're not being punished.
You're being redirected.
You don't need to find a "high-value man."
You need to stop using patriarchy's metrics to measure your joy.
How to Have Healthy Relationships (That Don’t Drain You)
If you’ve been wondering how to have healthy relationships in a world where emotional maturity is rare and romantic pressure is everywhere — you're not alone.
Her Soul Supply exists because we got tired of pretending.
Tired of fixing what isn’t ours to fix.
Tired of building lives around men who haven’t done the work.
At Her Soul Supply, We Don’t Help You Wait. We Help You Wake Up.
We help you:
Unlearn the standards that never had you in mind
Reclaim your time, peace, and clarity
Build deep, aligned relationships with yourself and others
Create a lifestyle that reflects your values, not your relationship status
We help you stop wasting time on people who aren’t even doing the basics, and instead start designing a life where you're the center of your joy, not an afterthought in someone else's journey.
Because you're not here to shrink, settle, or spin your wheels in dating cycles that don’t serve you. You're here to feel free, supported, and self-directed.
And it starts with our Single, Empowered, & Free masterclass — where you'll learn how to define success on your own terms and stop using men as the measure of your worth.
If You’re Done Settling, You’re in the Right Place.
You're not the only one asking:
"Is it me?"
"Is this what dating is now?"
"Am I doing it wrong?"
No, you’re not doing it wrong.
You're just not built for pretending.
The world told you to smile through settling.
Her Soul Supply says: let’s build a life that nourishes you instead.
Ready to stop making men the measure of your success?
Join us for the live masterclass that centers YOU.
It’s time to stop trying harder and start choosing better.
Let’s go.
